Will You Dare to Dream? By Crystal Tingle
“The things you are passionate about are not random. They are your calling.” Fabienne Fredricksom
I love this quote! Yes, I am a dreamer. And I dream BIG! I may or may not see all the things in my heart come to pass but I will give it everything I’ve got! Why? I believe we are all created with purpose. I believe we color the world with our vibrant gifts and talents. But I also believe that many of these gifts go unnoticed or unused. Some of us rise and shine, but others, instead of living life ablaze, have let their glow become dim and washed-out, and for many different reasons. Sometimes it’s the result of life’s trials and challenges. Sometimes it’s fear of failure or the unknown. Has this happened to you? Other times, it’s washed out by those closest who tell us it’s an impossible dream. Whatever the reason, our once-vivid hopes become a lifeless shade of grey living and cloudy days.
But every storm can bring a rainbow…a sign of new beginnings, a sign that it’s never too late to start or begin again! Remember, though, dreams are big, often monumental in size, and nothing big is going to come easy or all at once. If it did, everyone would already be living it, right?
The key to making your dream a reality lies within the answers to these questions: What is the clear vision of what you want? Why does this stir you so? What is your plan to make it happen? And you must never lose sight of what you’ve unfolded. Hold it tight. Hold it close. Remind yourself daily of why you started to begin with. I have one of those reminders and it’s always with me. It is a very intimate memory that I have held close to my heart for almost 30 years.
I have a very good friend, really a second mother, who is a two-time cancer survivor. Her mother and her aunt were both 42 years old when they lost their battles to breast cancer. My friend was diagnosed at the same age yet came out victorious, but not without the fight of her life - or for her life, I should say. She will turn 70 this year and is living strong in her dreams and purpose, full of color and radiant! The very thing that sought to destroy her twice has instead ignited a fire and a passion. She became determined to be a force for good, encouraging and inspiring as many women as she could, loving each and leaving them with a hope that was once lost!
I remember it like it was yesterday. I was visiting with her during one the darkest days of her battle. This gorgeous woman sat there with unfathomable inner strength yet so weak in her body, head wrapped with a beautifully-colored silk scarf, and spoke these words to me: “Honey, I want to challenge you with this: If you had never lived, would anyone be affected? Make a difference that you have lived.” With these words forever etched in my mind, I determined that my life would also be a force for good, always positively impacting those around me as she had and does. Life is short. We are not promised tomorrow and must seize the day at hand and live alive! More importantly you must live alive in YOUR purpose and passion and not someone else’s. You are YOUniquely U. Though others may be your inspiration, how you use your gifts and talents for others is uniquely you.
Make a difference that YOU have lived!
Practical Path to Finding and Walking in Your Purpose:
1. Have a clear vision of what you want to do. If you don’t have clarity, set time aside to make a bucket list. I know it seems a little dark, but often it is when we contemplate the end of our lives we become more aware of our true passions and desires. You may find your clarity on one of those lines. Remember, no dream is too big.
2. Research what it will take to accomplish. Read! Read! Read! Ask! Ask! Ask!
3. Network with other people who have a similar interest. Social media such as Linked In, Facebook Groups, etc. are great places for this outlet.
4. Establish a plan that charts soft and hard deadlines for all necessary steps including financial obligations to fulfill your dream. I always say that you must PLAN to succeed. Set short-term as well as long-term goals. You may need to make certain lifestyle changes to accomplish what lies ahead.
5. Create a vision board. Some people are motivated to continue the climb by a visual, sort of like your plan that has come to life through pictures. Find what works for you.
6. Surround yourself with people who will build you up and encourage you. Eliminate negative noise. Choose wisely but select a small handful of people to speak truth into your life and who will help keep you on track.
7. Finally, find your peace in this journey AND your balance. Don’t shuck present obligations and responsibilities to make this happen. It should all fit into the plan you’ve established. Remember, if living your dream were quick and easy, everyone would be doing it already.